Parenting has changed throughout the years, growing up, there are things that your parents did, that you swear you would not do to your children but you do it anyway, that is until it is brought to your attention. There is no right or wrong way to parent, the only wrong way is if you abandoned, abuse or kill your child/children. Love is the key to parenting, if you love your child you will do what is right to help the child mature into the amazing adult he/she needs to be.
Every single child is different, the way they develop is different the way they talk, walk, comprehend things, learn, the things they like are different. It can be that two of your children like the object, but if you pose this question to them, ” what do you like about it?” their answers will be different the purpose of the object in each of their sights is different, even though it is the same object.
For Example, I have twin boys! PLEASE PRAY FOR ME! Everything about them is different, when I started teaching my boys from a young age their ABCs I noticed that Jaheim which is the oldest (1 minute older, this means a lot to him) would not catch on I would have to go over the ABCs several times for him to get it. Jaden, on the other hand, he just needs to hear it one time and he would get it. He was quick. The next day I would go back and ask the boy to say their ABCs, Jaheim who was unable to catch on would be the one to know it and Jaden wouldn’t remember it much I would have to go over it with him again. So Jaden was quick at learning but unable to retain what he learns and Jaheim was slow at learning but when he gets it he remembers it.
So don’t be quick to discipline and judge your children, study their actions, likes and dislikes. Another example is food, when my boys were young they would not eat a complete hot dog, Jaheim would eat the sausage because that’s the part he likes and Jaden would eat the bread because that the part he likes. Now, it’s the total opposite! When Kids are born into this world it is a strange place for them, and we are here as their parents to help them figure it all out.
We must do this with love.